Dealing with parents who do not practice Islām by Ustādh Moosaa Richardson

Ustādh Moosaa Richardson gives us some precious advice on dealing with parents who do not practice their religion.

This question was asked during the conference in Masjid At-Tawheed in Cardiff entitled "Family matters; cultivating our families upon Islam".

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A question from the Philippines, may Allâhu ta'âlâ bless our brothers and sisters in the Philippines, and we say to them: Marhaban bikum, and thank you for joining us this weekend. How do we Salafis deal with parents who are not practicing, and sometimes they prevent you from obeying Allâh and they encourage you to disobey Allâh?

Quite clearly,

{فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا}                                                                                                                                                       

(Then obey them not.) 31:15

In their orders or their request to disobey Allâhu ta'âlâ.

{وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا}                                                                                                                                 

(But behave with them in the world kindly.) 31:15

But bear their company in a good way. Meaning, in all good manners.

Parents that encourage you, order you, command you, to disobey Allâhu ta'âlâ are not obeyed in that specific order. Outside of that, you can continue to be dutiful to them. You continue to rub your mother's feet. When she tells you: Stop praying, it has no benefit; and you say: Excuse me, umma, you know, please excuse me from that. And you continue to pray. And you rub her feet, and you do acts of kindness and benevolence to her as she raised you when you were young. And you are patient with the harm that you encounter from your parents - even if they are polytheists, disbelievers, people who have abandoned their religion, let alone just people who have abandoned some of the actions or become lackadaisical or fail to implement many orders in the house and so on. Be patient with them, (give them) good advice. Look for times they listen to you and ask for your advice and be there for good advice about implementing this religion. But also throughout all of that, be there with good treatment, be there with gifts, be there with foot rubs and so on. And Allâhu ta'âlâ knows best.

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