Dealing with parents who do not practice Islām - Moosaa Richardson

Moosaa Richardson gives us some precious advice on dealing with parents who do not practice their religion.

This question was asked during the in Masjid At-Tawheed in Cardiff entitled "Family matters; cultivating our families upon Islam".


❝A question from the Philippines, may Allāh تعالى bless our brothers and sisters in the Philippines, and we say to them: Marḥaban bikum (welcome), and thank you for joining us this weekend. “How do we, (as) Salafis, deal with parents who are not practicing (their religion), and sometimes they prevent you from obeying Allāh and they encourage you to disobey Allāh?”

Quite clearly,

﴾فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا﴿

Then don't obey them.

In their orders or their request to disobey Allāh تعالى.

﴾وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا﴿

But bear their company in a good way.[1]

Meaning, in all good manners.

Parents that encourage you, order you, command you, to disobey Allāh تعالى are not obeyed in that specific order. Outside of that, you can continue to be dutiful to them. You continue to rub your mother's feet. If she tells you: Stop praying, it’s no benefit; and you say: Excuse me, umma (mother), you know, please excuse me from that. And you continue to pray, and you rub her feet, and you do acts of kindness and benevolence to her as she raised you when you were young, and you are patient with the harm that you encounter from your parents, even if they are polytheists, disbelievers, people who have abandoned their religion, let alone, just people who have abandoned some of the actions or become lackadaisical or fail to implement many orders in the house and so on.

Be patient with them, (give them) good advice. Look for times they listen to you and ask for your advice and be there for good advice about implementing this religion, but also throughout all of that, be there with good treatment, be there with gifts, be there with foot rubs, and so on.

And Allāh تعالى knows best.❞

[1] Sūrah Luqmān: 15

Transcribed by: Arip Chua on December 15, 2019
Checked by: Ṭāhir Bin Manṣūr on Ramaḍān 02, 1441H corresponding to April 25, 2020

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